Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey EPUB & PDF – eBook Details Online
- Author: Steve Harvey
- Language: English
- Genere: Relationships
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- Pages: 356
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The Mind-Set of a Man
1 W h a t D r i v e s M e n
There is no truer statement: men are simple. Get this into your head first, and
everything you learn about us in this book will begin to fall into place. Once you
get that down, you’ll have to understand a few essential truths: men are driven
by who they are, what they do, and how much they make. No matter if a man is
a CEO, a CON, or both, everything he does is filtered through his title (who he
is), how he gets that title (what he does), and the reward he gets for the effort
(how much he makes).
These three things make up the basic DNA of manhood
—the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he’s
truly fulfilled his destiny as a man. And until he’s achieved his goal in those
three areas, the man you’re dating, committed to, or married to will be too busy
to focus on you.
Think about it: from the moment a boy is born, the first thing everyone around
him starts doing is telling him what he must do to be a real man. He is taught to
be tough—to wrestle, climb, get up without crying, not let anyone push him
He is taught to work hard—to do chores around the house, get the groceries out
of the car, take out the trash, shovel the snow, cut the grass, and, as soon as he’s
old enough, get a job.
He is taught to protect—to watch out for his mother and
his younger siblings, to watch over the house and the family’s property. And he
is especially encouraged to uphold his family name—make something of himself
so that when he walks in a room, everybody is clear about who he is, what he
does, and how much he makes. Each of these things is taught in preparation for
one thing: manhood.
The pursuit of manhood doesn’t change once a boy is grown. In fact, it’s only
magnified. His focus has always been on, and will remain on, who he is, what he
does, and how much he makes until he feels like he’s achieved his mission.
And until a man does these things, women only fit into the cracks of his life.
He’s not thinking about settling down, having children, or building a home with
anyone until he’s got all three of those things in sync. I’m not saying that he has
had to have made it, but at least he has to be on track to making it.
This is certainly how it worked for me. I’ll never forget how disappointed,
frustrated, and unhappy I was when, in my early twenties, I was laid off from the
Ford Motor Company. I was already a college dropout, and now, without a job, I
hardly had enough money to take care of myself, much less a family.
me unsure of my future—what I was going to do, how much I was going to
make, and what my title would be. The titles “college graduate” and “Ford
inspector” were gone; having no job pretty much meant that my chances of
bringing home a good paycheck were zero; and I hadn’t a clue how I was going
to make money. It took me a while to find my footing.
I dabbled in various jobs: I owned a carpet cleaning business; I sold carpet; I
sold Amway products, the Dick Gregory Baha-mian Diet, and ALW Insurance
and Commonwealth Insurance.
It was madness what I was doing to try to get my life together.
Finding someone serious to settle down with was the absolute last thing on my
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